first blog :]

oh man, its been a very long time since ii have blogged. due to trangalang, ii have started a blog, so this is in her honor. ii have to decided to blog about different topics that other people have chosen for me to talk about and ii might come up with a few of my own. trangalang: what is the difference between befriending someone and dating someone? can not the things you do with your bf/gf, can you do with a friend? it seems like you can. so is it just the physical activities? but, somehow, at utmost caution we know there is a difference. yet it's so invisible.

there are so many answers to these questions. ii feel that when the questions are first looked upon, a first reaction would be of course there's a difference. your boyfriend/girlfriend is your boyfriend/girlfriend. there is a distinct difference, but honestly is there? is labeling someone your boyfriend/girlfriend making them more or less a friend to you? in recent years, i've realized that labeling someone as your boyfriend or girlfriend, in some ways makes them yours. you can label any one your friend, but they can also be a friend to others, but when it comes to making someone your boyfriend/girlfriend, well for the most part, not everyone will be that to you. it becomes your "possesion." okay that sounds horrible, ii dont mean it the way it sounds. when you are someone's somebody, you feel differently then when you are just a friend. when you look at a close friend and a significant other, you think about the differences, and they start to narrow. the thing is so few have many close friends of the opposite sex or for that matter of the same sex, that you are quite close to the point where people think that there isnt anything more, without there being anything more. when you do have a friend that you are quite close to, in our society it is odd to be just friends with someone of the opposite sex in that way. we've all seen the movies where best friends fall in love and they don't realize it until they are old or faced with an issue that involves testing their borderline boyfriend/girlfriend friendship. when you think about it isnt that what a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is? a very close friendship, or at least it should be. also, the physical things that go on can also occur in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship but also in a friendship, hence friends with benefits, but these are all just labels. ii think the biggest and most important difference between a boyfriend/girlfriend and simply a friend is how you feel about that person. you might want engage in the same things that you do with a boyfriend/girlfriend that you would with a friend, but you wont feel the feelings you do for a friend as you do for a significant other. you feel differently when you see them, when you're next to them, when you talk to them, when you interact physically, when you miss them a second after they have said bye, etc. loving someone is completely different than being in love someone.

hmmm this is my view on this subject, ii wonder what other people have to say.